sadness.

I am sad.
So I decided to make an advice post on how to deal with being sad. Not how to start being happy.. but how to deal.

1. Make sure your health needs are fulfilled. If you are hungry, eat a heart meal. Drink water. This is important, because being hungry can make you irritable.
2. Cry. Let it out. Let yourself feel it. Lie down and listen to silence. Holding it in will make you a ticking bomb, or just a really unhappy person. Really, let yourself feel it.
3. Write it down or draw what you are feeling.
4. Take care of your obligations so you won't freak out over them.
5. Listen to music on speakers, not in your ears, for minimum stress.
6. Get a hug.
7. Talk to someone.
8. Watch your favorite sitcom. Watch something just to make fun of it.
9. Pull yourself away from distractions, like t.v., ipod, internet. Those are addictions. Give yourself quiet time so you can relax and reduce stress and headaches.
10. Hang out with people you love. Don't wallow in your sadness for too long. Friends can help pull you out of that hole you are thinking of retreating in. The more you ignore your reality, the more challenging and big it will seem.

Breakups are hard. I thought my relationship was a dream come true. Learning that he didn't love me was like finding out Santa Claus wasn't real when I was young. Never idealize a person.